Category: Everyday Living

The Law of Detachment

By definition —

“In detachment lies the wisdom of uncertainty . . . in the wisdom of uncertainty lies the freedom from our past, from the known, which is the prison of past conditioning. And in our willingness to step into the unknown, the field of all possibilities, we surrender ourselves to the creative mind that orchestrates the dance of the universe.”

How I perceive it:

  • Letting go of things not meant for you, for those only meant to teach you about life and about yourself
  • Letting go of things you have absolutely no control over. Those just bring you unnecessary stress.
  • Always believing that Universe is always conspiring with you and gives you what you truly desire

When you start to attach yourself to certain outcomes, disappointment immediately follows. Guaranteed.

Simply hold everyday moments in an open hand and you will see how thoughts, interactions, emotions and ideas easily come and go. And only a few, those that are meant for you, will stay.

How to quickly UNLIKE pages on Facebook

After successfully transferring all my photos from Facebook to Google photos, it’s time to UNLIKE the majority of the pages that I’ve previously LIKED on Facebook. Why am I doing this? Because I want to strip my profile 95% of all content I’ve posted, photos I’ve uploaded, pages liked, etc.

Initially, I thought I would have to visit each page one by one. Considering that I am innately lazy, I tried to find a way to UNLIKE pages at once similar to a ‘select all’ then ‘unlike all’ solution. Unfortunately, I couldn’t find anything like that but I did find a solution that enabled me to unlike pages one by one but faster.

To quickly unlike pages, here’s how to do it:

On your Facebook account, go to Settings & Privacy then Activity Log.

Facebook Activity Log

Once you’re on Activity Log, scroll down to ‘Connections’ then proceed to Pages, page likes and interests. You will then see all the pages you’ve LIKED over the years, and to start un-liking these pages, simply click the 3 dots and hit ‘UNLIKE’.

It took me approximately an hour to unlike more than a decade’s worth of pages. It would have taken me longer if I had to click on each page so I am relieved that Facebook found a way to make this easier.

Facebook page likes

How to download ALL your photos from Facebook

I have been thinking for a while now about deleting my Facebook profile because it’s not serving its purpose anymore and there’s too much noise and clutter coming from it. However, once I delete my profile, I will no longer be able to use my messenger. So what I’ve decided to do is remove all photos, leave all the Facebook groups I’ve joined, and unlike all pages. I want to strip my profile 95% of all content I’ve posted, photos I’ve uploaded, etc.

First hurdle, downloading all my photos. I have uploaded thousands of photos over the years so I thought it would take me forever to download everything. But after a quick search on Google, I have found the perfect solution.

To download all your albums and photos at once, here’s how to do it:

On your Facebook account, go to Settings & Privacy then Settings.

Facebook Profile Settings

Once you’re on Settings, go to Your Facebook Information tab then proceed to ‘Transfer a Copy of Your Information’.

Your Facebook Information

Before you are able to transfer a copy, you will be asked to enter your password again for security purposes.

To start transferring a copy of your information, choose what information you want to transfer, date range, and where you want it transferred. If you have a Gmail account, then you can choose Google photos.

Considering I have tons of photos, the entire process took approximately 8 hours to complete. To see if the transfer was, indeed, successful, I checked my Google photos and I’m happy to report that all my photos were copied without any errors.

Another way to check, go back to ‘Transfer a Copy of Your Information’. You will see at the bottom if the request has been completed (as seen in the screenshot below).

Get freebies and discounts with your vaccination card

It was last June when I got my second dose of COVID vaccine. Given that I will be traveling soon, choosing to get vaccinated was a no-brainer.

As it turns out, getting vaccinated not only prevents you from having severe complications from COVID but you can also enjoy discounts and freebies from restaurants and shops.

Based on personal experience, I have used my vaccination card to get a FREE upsize at The Coffee Bean and Tea Leaf and UCC Cafe. I also enjoyed a 10% discount at Salad Stop for a minimum purchase of 500php.

There are a lot more participating shops to encourage people from getting vaccinated and these deals will last until the end of the year. So don’t think about it anymore. Let’s put an end to this pandemic and get vaccinated sooner than later.

Here’s another tip for you — as soon as you’re done with your second dose, make duplicates of your vaccination card and have them laminated. Use the duplicates when going to shops or restaurants and keep the original copy at home.

Use Foodpanda and save money with your takeaway order

I currently live in a condo unit and the ground floor of the building is filled with restaurants, a grocery store, pharmacy, bookstore, and more. Oftentimes, I would order food for takeaway from one of the restaurants since dine-in is still at limited capacity. 

Since I have been aware of my spending habits and want to save as much as I can, I look for ways to cut down on my expenses without sacrificing a lot. In this scenario, instead of going directly to the restaurant to order, I use Foodpanda and use the pickup feature. By doing so, I am able to save 15%-20% of my total order, plus I don’t have to wait until they finish preparing my order. Once I get a notification that my order is ready for pickup, that’s when I go down and go directly to the restaurant. As for the payment, I use GCash, which has been very convenient especially when it comes to cashless transactions.

So if you always order food for takeaway or you happen to be in a mall and thinking of buying food to bring home, I suggest you take advantage of Foodpanda’s pickup feature and save money.

“You know, sometimes all you need is twenty seconds of insane courage. Just literally twenty seconds of just embarrassing bravery. And I promise you, something great will come of it.”

Benjamin Mee, We Bought a Zoo

Starting Over

I believe COVID presented an opportunity for me to start over, to have a clean slate. Or at least, that’s how I see it. It has been 2 years since I last traveled outside the country (that’s a big deal for me btw) and within those 2 years, I have been thinking about writing again.

You see, back in 2014, I created my first blog. It was intended as a personal journal that turned into a travel blog when I went backpacking in South America.

I have always liked writing, but blogging not so much. I have been a follower of wanting to ‘get-rich-quick’ through blogging, thinking that I can earn a full-time income in a matter of months, but I was dead wrong and just damn stupid to think so. 

Blogging is not a business, it’s a marketing strategy for your actual business. Whether it’s selling online courses, providing freelance services, promoting other people’s products, etc.

Anyway, I wanted to go back to writing, to start creating content that people will actually read and not just some random thoughts that come to mind. So I did, but I didn’t use my first blog, I created a new one instead.

19th of June, I created this blog and in a matter of 2 days, I was able to write 16 articles. I haven’t done that much writing ever since I started my first blog. 

What did I do differently this time?

I didn’t focus on making my website beautiful. I want my website to be as minimalistic and clean as possible, similar to Seth’s Blog, Zen Habit, and Corbett Barr. I don’t even want to use featured images on my posts because finding images to use also takes time and images slow down your site speed. So I simply looked for a WordPress theme that works for me and started writing like a content machine. 

I realized that when I took away all the vanity metrics, I was able to focus more on what’s important – creating content.

With She Finds Ways, the central theme is providing solutions to everyday problems, remote work, and of course, travel. If I encountered an issue and was able to resolve it or learned something new, and I think people will benefit from it, then I will write about it. As a result, I don’t run out of ideas to write about. I write and publish even if the article has less than 300 words. 

What’s important for me now is to be able to provide value in a faster way because people have such a short attention span and will rarely spend time reading an article that’s 3000 words long. People search online for answers, and the sooner you can provide answers, the better.

Why didn’t I just revamp my old website instead of starting over?

Because my first blog has so much clutter in it that it will take me a lot of time to clean it up, taking away precious time for content creation. Another thing, ‘I am Sonhadora’ is hard to remember and spelling will always be an issue. And frankly speaking, I have written so much random stuff that even I can’t identify its central theme anymore.

Am I expecting to earn money from this blog?

No. As mentioned earlier, blogging is not a business. It’s merely a marketing strategy for whatever business I come up with. Perhaps after a year, I will have a clearer picture of what business I can start based on how my readers engage with my content. All I know is that providing valuable content will pave the way to a market-fit product or service.

Besides, given that I have 2 full-time online jobs, there is no pressure for me to make money from this, so I can just enjoy writing and let this be my creative outlet.

And, in all honesty, I have yet to see if I will be consistent in creating content for a full year because, based on experience, I lack follow through, something that I definitely need to change. If after a year, I don’t feel like writing anymore, then I can just stop.

How do you deal with someone who works for a company that kills people?

OK, that title seems like an exaggeration. Lo siento.

One of my sisters, I have 4 sisters and a brother, works for a tobacco company. She’s been with the company for a decade now, she’s really good at what she does plus she gets paid well.

Anyway, my concern really is how smoking can kill you. Especially with COVID, where the lungs are the primary target of the virus, shouldn’t we all be smarter and stop smoking altogether? Given that I am not a smoker, I know it is easier said than done. I understand that asking someone to stop smoking and them actually deciding to stop is quite a long shot. Should I even bother trying?

So tell me, how do I react when she tells my other siblings about a new product? I want to join in the conversation and say, “SMOKING CAN KILL YOU” but of course, I can’t do that because what anyone does with his/her body is none of my business. 

The only thing I can do is to write about it.

“Be a yardstick of quality. Some people aren’t used to an environment where excellence is expected.”

steve jobs

Eat healthy, save time and money

It started last February when I started living on my own again. I don’t mind cooking but if I’m cooking for one, it’s too much effort.

Do I eat out or order food every day? No.

What I did, and still doing up to now, is subscribe to healthy meal plans from Yummy Diet. I subscribe weekly to one of Yummy Diet’s meal plans – the low calorie plan with only 1200 calories to be exact – and order lunch and dinner at 150php per meal. I make my own breakfast (yogurt, berries, granola) and don’t really eat a snack, so lunch and dinner are enough for me. 

To calculate, that’s 300php per day for 5 days a week amounting to 1,500php per week or 6,000php per month. For some, this might seem a lot but since I live alone and I only spend for myself, this is something that I can afford.

Yummy Diet has proven to be convenient for me because I don’t have to think about what to eat every day or spend time cooking and cleaning up the mess in the kitchen. It also saves me money because I normally spend 12,000-15,000php on groceries each month when I used to cook every day. And lastly, given that Yummy Diet specializes in making healthy meals, my calorie, protein, fat, and carbs intake are well-balanced.

Eating healthy doesn’t have to cost a lot. Not with money, not with time, and definitely, not with your health.